Our past determines...

Our past determines our present and future.

Example: we would have scored less mark in Maths in school days.... then we decide and declare that we are not good in Maths...

Example 2: when we tried to sing in front of our relatives... they would have criticized... the result... we say we are not good in singing.

My cousin literally pushed my head inside Cauvery river when I was young... believe me… even now I am scared of river, ocean, why even waterfalls....... why so much I hate to take bath in Shower........

I don't go for boating if it is self driven… in places like Kodaikanal....

Rita.... The fear will go only if we face the problem....

It calls for a positive experience to replace the earlier memory file in our brain/mind

So are you scared of anything....... eating ice cream in winter.... going in the rain...... taking bath in cold water...........

Just experience it with positive mind... (May be with prior prayers if you want) and you will unlearn that relearn that it does not harm you.

It is the transformation learning.

Experience can replace the memory.... especially bad/sad memory...

Take help of someone who you completely rely or believe upon to overcome fear....

Our elders say if you go in the rain you will catch cold or you will get fever.

Actually your dress becomes wet and your head as well. In fact you will enjoy rain as well.

Any food for that matter if you look at it with deep desire.... then the digesting system would support you.

If you look at the item with fear and hesitation... you will face gastric/loose motion/vomiting etc.

The moment our eyes see the food, a message goes to the digestive system from the brain that we are going to consume spicy food/oily food today... based on which the requisite enzyme is formed in the system... That is why people say do not watch TV while eating...

So everything has to be experienced..... To overcome fear/fear of failure/fear of ridicule etc.