live in the present

Are you familiar with the expression "to live in the moment?" This is the ability to be fully present and aware of yourself and your surroundings as you live each moment. Achieving such a state requires observation, appreciation, patience, quiet, and the ability to turn off the clock and put away the calendar.
While most of us don't experience such times frequently, this is when we feel the most alive. In theory, friends, being present involve learning how to pay attention, and the process of getting there is far easier than you might think. There are a few simple things you can do right now to help you stay in the present and pay attention to your life experience in a very positive way.
Start by setting a few quiet minutes aside each day to close your eyes and take stock of what you are feeling, no matter how good or bad those feelings may be. Don't judge your feelings, just allow yourself to become aware of the emotions behind them.
Next, send your attention outward and become aware of things around you. Notice if you feel warm or cold, what your clothing feels like against your skin, the feeling of the air moving in and out of your lungs. Let the sounds around you filter through you and notice the underlying noises that you may have been tuning out. Next, open your eyes and notice the colors and sights around you in this same subtle, attentive way.
By the time you are halfway through this little exercise, friends, you may be surprised at how much you actually notice about your internal and external presence. If you try this, you will probably find that "paying attention" will take on a whole new meaning, and it will be a very nice one at that.
I hope that you can take some time this week to practice "living in the moment." I feel sure that it will change your experience in "now" time. Enjoy, and don't forget to spend some time with your family.
Until next time Your friend,

Our past determines...

Our past determines our present and future.

Example: we would have scored less mark in Maths in school days.... then we decide and declare that we are not good in Maths...

Example 2: when we tried to sing in front of our relatives... they would have criticized... the result... we say we are not good in singing.

My cousin literally pushed my head inside Cauvery river when I was young... believe me… even now I am scared of river, ocean, why even waterfalls....... why so much I hate to take bath in Shower........

I don't go for boating if it is self driven… in places like Kodaikanal....

Rita.... The fear will go only if we face the problem....

It calls for a positive experience to replace the earlier memory file in our brain/mind

So are you scared of anything....... eating ice cream in winter.... going in the rain...... taking bath in cold water...........

Just experience it with positive mind... (May be with prior prayers if you want) and you will unlearn that relearn that it does not harm you.

It is the transformation learning.

Experience can replace the memory.... especially bad/sad memory...

Take help of someone who you completely rely or believe upon to overcome fear....

Our elders say if you go in the rain you will catch cold or you will get fever.

Actually your dress becomes wet and your head as well. In fact you will enjoy rain as well.

Any food for that matter if you look at it with deep desire.... then the digesting system would support you.

If you look at the item with fear and hesitation... you will face gastric/loose motion/vomiting etc.

The moment our eyes see the food, a message goes to the digestive system from the brain that we are going to consume spicy food/oily food today... based on which the requisite enzyme is formed in the system... That is why people say do not watch TV while eating...

So everything has to be experienced..... To overcome fear/fear of failure/fear of ridicule etc.

Are you sleeping well

Recently a friend of mine, Naresh, who loves surrounding himself with all kinds of interesting new gadgets, complained to me that he was having difficulty sleeping. Looking for an explanation for his sleeplessness, I asked him if he kept technological gadgets in his bedroom. He laughed, saying that his bedroom had become the "control room" of his house. That answer told me everything I needed to know about the probable cause of his irregular sleep patterns. A lot of people don't realize it, but all of our electrical appliances and gadgets emit electromagnetic fields that have an effect on us.

The Earth, Sun, and atmospheric phenomenon, such as thunderstorms and the northern lights, all have their own electromagnetic field and our bodies are sensitive to these natural energy fields. Man-made electronics have their own electromagnetic energy fields, which can actually interfere with our connection to the natural ones. For example, I am sure that at some point in your life you were advised not to sit too close to the television or not to stand in front of the microwave while it's running. That's because electromagnetic energy from electronics can disrupt our circadian rhythms, which govern our sleep cycles.

When I mentioned these points to Naresh, I could almost see the "light bulb" going off over his head. He had completely forgotten about the negative effects of electromagnetic energy and immediately started thinking how he could transform his bedroom back into a sleeping space. The next time I saw Harry, I was very happy to learn that he was sleeping better. He shared with me what he had done to minimize the effect of electronics in his bedroom:

• He moved his electric alarm clock from the night table beside his bed to the chest of drawers across the room.

• He removed his computer, and other "fun" gadgets from the bedroom.

• He decided to keep his small television and electric fan in the room but moved them as far away from the bed as he could.

• He likes keeping his cell phone nearby, but put it on the floor by the bed to keep the electromagnetic energy below him instead of in line with his head.

Harry was convinced that these simple changes had made a big difference and that was why he was sleeping like a baby again.

I hope that you are a sound sleeper, but if not, you might want to evaluate what you can do to remove or shift the electronics in your bedroom to see if that makes a positive difference for you.

Mood managing

Dear Friends,

I think it is a fact of life that every once in a while we find ourselves in a bad mood. Sometimes we know why we are in a bad mood and sometimes the reason may not be an evident reason at all. Even though we can all certain experience times like this, it doesn't mean we have to be stuck in them. Bad moods are often an indication that we need to check in with our feelings and do something about them or take action to shift our energy in a more positive direction.

If you are not sure why you are in a bad mood, imagine what you would say if you were allowed a very secret few minutes to complain about anything that is going on in your life. Chances are the things that come up may be tied to how you are feeling. The good part is that once you pinpoint why you are in a bad mood you are in a better position to do something positive about it.

Sometimes when we are in a bad mood, the energy we give off simply attracts more negative things our way. That's why some “bad mood” days can spiral even further downhill with problems and annoyances that appear to validate our discontent and frustration. When this happens, consider doing something nice for yourself. Enjoy your favorite beverage or snack, find a funny movie or sit calm to watch on the tele, or just go for a walk in the park. Allowing yourself the time and opportunity to do something pleasurable is a positive step that could help to break the negative energy and hopefully shift your mood.

Another way to break a bad mood is to go somewhere else. Even if all you do is to get up and make a quick trip to another part of the office or you switch rooms at home, this plan of action can really make a difference. Or better yet, get some exercise. Exercise doesn't just build and tones your body, my friend. It also causes the brain to release chemicals called endorphins that help improve your mood.

And when you're in a bad mood, don't forget about the people around you. If someone reaches out to you, make sure to let him or her know that you are just having a tough day and your mood isn't about them. It's possible that simply telling someone else that you are in a bad mood can shift your energy.

Friends, sometimes we just have a day that isn't so great, but if you find yourself in a bad mood, don't beat yourself up over it. Give these tips a try, and you could be feeling better before you know it! Have a good day. With best wishes.

Sleep pattern

Dear Friends,

Many of us suffer from sleep deprivation. Shifting work schedules, stress, having had extra guests in the house over the recent holidays can all affect your sleep patterns and leave you feeling tired and out of sorts. Of course, these problems can happen at any time of the year, but there are things you can do to help improve your sleep even when circumstances aren't optimal.

Your own personal sleep patterns will affect your ability to respond to disruptions or make changes; some people are night owls, while others may be early risers. Some can get by on six hours of sleep and others may need nine hours. If your work schedule doesn't fit your sleep pattern, your health and temperament can suffer. If you need to make an adjustment, do so gradually. You just need to reset you body's inner sleep clock by adjusting your bedtime in 30-minute increments every few days until you are fully on a new schedule.

If you have trouble falling sleep, regardless of any schedule changes, there are steps you can take to fall asleep faster and stay asleep longer. Avoiding alcohol or stimulants like caffeine or chocolate for at least several hours before bedtime is an important first step in getting to sleep. The same goes for exercising around your bedtime, which also energizes the body and mind, which is the last thing you need if you are trying to drop off into peaceful slumber.

Did you ever wonder why so many people love to sleep in motel rooms where they feel free to lower the temperature and pile on the blankets? There's a very good reason for this. Sleeping in a hot room or using electric blankets can cause disrupted sleep because the body requires a cooler core temperature as you fall asleep in order to promote deep sleep. If you've ever struggled to fall asleep on a hot summer night without air conditioning you will know what I am talking about.

Power naps are another solution for boosting energy levels, especially on those days when you didn't get enough sleep. A 20-minute catnap during your lunch hour (provided you have a quite place to close your eyes) or before late afternoon can make all the difference and provide you more energy and alertness than a cup of coffee or tea. And don't miss out on the opportunity to sleep in on your days off or on weekends so that you can catch up on rest. It is fun to be able to ignore the alarm clock and have a bit of a lounge every now and then.

I hope these sleep tips will help you get sound sleep no matter what your day brings. Rest is so important to your state of mind and the better rested you are, the better you can cope with things that come your way.

New Year Resolution

Dear Friends,

How often have your New Year's resolutions been forgotten by

January 2nd? I thought it would be fun to devise a

New Year Ritual to help support those good intentions for 2011.

The ritual involves cleansing ourselves of what we want to

remove from our life and affirming ourselves of the things

we want to invite into our life.

Here is what you need to do. Go to a calm, quiet place you

won't be disturbed. Draw the curtains and dim the lights or

light a candle, or even some incense if you like. Breathe

deeply until you feel relaxed – but don't fall asleep. Let

your mind drift over the past 12 months, think about all

that you've done. Then, write down on a piece of paper

all your achievements and everything that gave you

pleasure this past year.

Next, on another piece of paper, list everything you

want for yourself in 2011. It can be as detailed as you like.

The clearer you are about with your intentions, the

easier it is for the Universe to provide it. When finished,

put this paper in a safe place, like the back of a drawer.

This is the first part of your Resolutions.

The next part involves letting go. Most of us have one or

two habits we'd like to break, like negative thought

patterns that prevent us from doing what we'd like to do.

Or perhaps there is an emotion we can't quite let go of,

one that no longer serves any purpose other than to

bring us down.

On a separate piece of paper, write down the things

you'd like to remove or eradicate from your life.

When you are finished, put the paper where it won't be

disturbed. Then on Tuesday, the 4th, if there are

anything additional you'd like to add to your list, go ahead.

Now you are ready for the last step, which takes place at night.

On the night of the 4th, you are ready for the final step,

which involves burning your lists. Take all your pieces of

paper and burn them, one at a time. As you do, say out loud

or silently, "I no longer need ………… in my life". While

doing this, think about all your negatives going up in

smoke and your wish list gathering strength in the darkness!

Best Wishes for a Very Happy New Year!

love all

A saint asked his disciples, 'Why do we shout in anger? Why do people

Shout at each other when they are upset?'

Disciples thought for a while, one of them said, 'because we lose our

calm, we shout for that.'

'But, why to shout when the other person is just next to you?' asked

the saint. 'Isn't it possible to speak to him or her with a soft voice? Why

do you shout at a person when you're angry?'

Disciples gave some other answers but none satisfied the saint.

Finally he explained, 'When two people are angry at each other, their

hearts distance a lot. To cover that distance they must shout to be able

to hear each other. The angrier they are, the stronger they will have to

shout to hear each other through that great distance.'

Then the saint asked, 'What happens when two people fall in love? They

don't shout at each other but talk softly, why? Because their hearts are

very close. The distance between them is very small...'

The saint continued, 'When they love each other even more, what happens?

They do not speak, only whisper and they get even closer to each other

in their love. Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at

each other and that's all. That is how close two people are when they

love each other.'

MORAL: When you argue do not let your hearts get distant, do not say

words that distance each other more, else there will come a day when the

distance is so great that you will not find the path to return.

live in the present

Are you familiar with the expression "to live in the moment?" This is the ability to be fully present and aware of yourself and your surroundings as you live each moment. Achieving such a state requires observation, appreciation, patience, quiet, and the ability to turn off the clock and put away the calendar.

While most of us don't experience such times frequently, this is when we feel the most alive. In theory, friends, being present involve learning how to pay attention, and the process of getting there is far easier than you might think. There are a few simple things you can do right now to help you stay in the present and pay attention to your life experience in a very positive way.

Start by setting a few quiet minutes aside each day to close your eyes and take stock of what you are feeling, no matter how good or bad those feelings may be. Don't judge your feelings, just allow yourself to become aware of the emotions behind them.

Next, send your attention outward and become aware of things around you. Notice if you feel warm or cold, what your clothing feels like against your skin, the feeling of the air moving in and out of your lungs. Let the sounds around you filter through you and notice the underlying noises that you may have been tuning out. Next, open your eyes and notice the colors and sights around you in this same subtle, attentive way.

By the time you are halfway through this little exercise, friends, you may be surprised at how much you actually notice about your internal and external presence. If you try this, you will probably find that "paying attention" will take on a whole new meaning, and it will be a very nice one at that.

I hope that you can take some time this week to practice "living in the moment." I feel sure that it will change your experience in "now" time. Enjoy, and don't forget to spend some time with your family.

Until next time Your friend,

Achieve your goal

Dear Friends,

Have you ever wanted something desperately, but felt you could never get it? I think that many people probably experience this. We all have dreams and aspirations, but not all of us believe we can realize them. I believe that most dreams are attainable, provided that we are able to set realistic goals and take active steps to make them come true.

I want to share a story about one of my friends that illustrates this. A young man I'll call Rajesh came to me for a reading to find out why he wasn't achieving the thing he most wanted in life, to become a voice-over actor. He was frustrated and angry because his dream wasn't materializing, So I asked him what he was doing to realize this goal. He said he visualized every day but admitted that he had done little else, mostly because he really didn't know what to do.

Visualizing can be very effective, but Rajesh needed to exert physical and mental energy toward realizing his desired goal. I decided to introduce him to the law of attraction and the idea that every action that is focused on a goal actually helps to bring about that goal. After doing that, we came up with a plan to help his achieve his goal.

Rajesh’s first step was to find out everything he could from the library and Internet about being a voice-over actor. Next, he had to research what kind of training he would need, where and how to get it, and how much it would cost. And finally, he had to figure out how much time he would need to complete a program, think of ways he could support himself during his training, locate ways to fund for his education, and then apply to institutions that specialize in voice-over programs.

As you might have guessed, the next time I heard from Rajesh, he was on cloud nine. He had been accepted to an acting school that specialized in voice-over and he had even found a job that was flexible with his new school schedule.

Rajesh says that he will be working in a studio within a year's time, earning a pretty good salary and doing what he'd always dreamed of. And this is all because he was finally able to put energy behind his dream by finding out how to realize it and then set about doing just that.

Friends, if there is something you have always wished you could do, I hope that Rajesh's story will inspire you to go after your own dream.

Make sure to spend some time going over your Health, Wealth and Happiness.