live in the present

Are you familiar with the expression "to live in the moment?" This is the ability to be fully present and aware of yourself and your surroundings as you live each moment. Achieving such a state requires observation, appreciation, patience, quiet, and the ability to turn off the clock and put away the calendar.

While most of us don't experience such times frequently, this is when we feel the most alive. In theory, friends, being present involve learning how to pay attention, and the process of getting there is far easier than you might think. There are a few simple things you can do right now to help you stay in the present and pay attention to your life experience in a very positive way.

Start by setting a few quiet minutes aside each day to close your eyes and take stock of what you are feeling, no matter how good or bad those feelings may be. Don't judge your feelings, just allow yourself to become aware of the emotions behind them.

Next, send your attention outward and become aware of things around you. Notice if you feel warm or cold, what your clothing feels like against your skin, the feeling of the air moving in and out of your lungs. Let the sounds around you filter through you and notice the underlying noises that you may have been tuning out. Next, open your eyes and notice the colors and sights around you in this same subtle, attentive way.

By the time you are halfway through this little exercise, friends, you may be surprised at how much you actually notice about your internal and external presence. If you try this, you will probably find that "paying attention" will take on a whole new meaning, and it will be a very nice one at that.

I hope that you can take some time this week to practice "living in the moment." I feel sure that it will change your experience in "now" time. Enjoy, and don't forget to spend some time with your family.

Until next time Your friend,

good behavior in public

Dear all,

When you think about good manners, some people focus on proper etiquette at the table, but manners are so much more than that. Good manners extend to making eye contact and paying full attention to the person you are speaking to, saying yes, no, please and thank you, avoiding gossip and behaving in a way that puts other people at ease and makes them feel comfortable around you.

I was recently at a gathering where I ran into an old friend who had his two children in tow. The oldest, a boy, was 17 and the younger daughter was 14. Normally bringing children to a party can be risky, but these two had such excellent manners that one could easily forget that they were youngsters. Both were polite, spoke comfortably with adults and handled themselves appropriately around the buffet.

I commented to my friend about how wonderfully his children were behaving and he thanked me for my compliment, saying that he was very proud of how well his children handled themselves in public. Then he confided that they weren't always quite as well behaved at home, but he expressed great satisfaction about having been able to instill in them a sense of the importance of good manners, as this skill will enable them to function well in any situation as they become adults.

Another good friend of mine works in human resources in a large corporation and says that her company receives many resumes from applicants who can't even be considered for hire due to their poor manners. Some are clueless about good phone etiquette, while others use rude language when addressing the interviewer or speak far too loudly. This lack of basic manners can actually ruin opportunities for potential employees who would otherwise be quiet capable.

Fortunately, good manners are something that anyone can learn, so it is very important that we all practice using good manners, especially around those who don't use them. You always have an opportunity to set a good example for others, especially children, by how you handle yourself in public.

We can actually help to make someone's day by using good manners. Maybe it means greeting others with direct eye contact, a smile and a firm handshake, or holding a door open for someone, or hanging up our cell phones when dealing with other people such as cashiers and newsagents. It is all about thoughtfulness in our daily interactions with the people around us.

Good manners reflect tact, diplomacy and consideration for our fellow man. Using good manners is a powerful way to show our respect for others and at the same time feel confident in every situation.

Bye till next time…….

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Achieve your goal

Dear Friends,

Have you ever wanted something desperately, but felt you could never get it? I think that many people probably experience this. We all have dreams and aspirations, but not all of us believe we can realize them. I believe that most dreams are attainable, provided that we are able to set realistic goals and take active steps to make them come true.

I want to share a story about one of my friends that illustrates this. A young man I'll call Rajesh came to me for a reading to find out why he wasn't achieving the thing he most wanted in life, to become a voice-over actor. He was frustrated and angry because his dream wasn't materializing, So I asked him what he was doing to realize this goal. He said he visualized every day but admitted that he had done little else, mostly because he really didn't know what to do.

Visualizing can be very effective, but Rajesh needed to exert physical and mental energy toward realizing his desired goal. I decided to introduce him to the law of attraction and the idea that every action that is focused on a goal actually helps to bring about that goal. After doing that, we came up with a plan to help his achieve his goal.

Rajesh’s first step was to find out everything he could from the library and Internet about being a voice-over actor. Next, he had to research what kind of training he would need, where and how to get it, and how much it would cost. And finally, he had to figure out how much time he would need to complete a program, think of ways he could support himself during his training, locate ways to fund for his education, and then apply to institutions that specialize in voice-over programs.

As you might have guessed, the next time I heard from Rajesh, he was on cloud nine. He had been accepted to an acting school that specialized in voice-over and he had even found a job that was flexible with his new school schedule.

Rajesh says that he will be working in a studio within a year's time, earning a pretty good salary and doing what he'd always dreamed of. And this is all because he was finally able to put energy behind his dream by finding out how to realize it and then set about doing just that.

Friends, if there is something you have always wished you could do, I hope that Rajesh's story will inspire you to go after your own dream.

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Take a mini break.. you deserve it

Take a Mini-Break from Work

We all need a break. However, in the current environment, taking time off for a vacation may not be the right thing for your company (or your bank account). Find ways to carve out smaller chunks of time to rest and recuperate. Here are few things you can do in one hour or less.

Take a yoga class. Make the time by trying an early morning class or go on your lunch break.

Turn off your Blackberry. Even if it's just an hour while you take a walk or have dinner with a friend, this "quiet" time will help you feel more focused when it's time to power back on.

Do a crossword puzzle. Research shows crosswords sharpen the mind. Work on the puzzle while you eat your lunch and give yourself a mental break.

Listen to some melodious music, may be a Ghazal or cine music which will soothe your mind and soul.

Take your child’s old album and glance through it to rewind your good old memories.

Take a break to recapture your victorious moments, happy moments by going into silence with closed eyes.

Your intuition

Dear Friends,

How much do you trust your intuition? We all possess that small inner voice that warns us when someone or something isn't right or urges us to do something or go somewhere this is not in the plan. Yet many of us are taught to ignore their inner voice and to put other's feelings and needs above our own.

My inner voice plays a big role in my work. I also depend on my intuition as well. Over the years I have learned to trust my intuition and listen to it without reservation and so far, it has never steered me wrong.

My friend, when you learn to listen to you inner voice and trust your own intuition you begin to trust yourself and your own judgment, and that makes you will feel more confident and secure in the knowledge that you are truly in charge of your life. If you still don't feel so comfortable with your intuition, you can always begin with smaller things. For example, consult your inner voice about which foods are the best choices for you at mealtimes or what clothes will give you the most positive presence and outlook for the day.

For bigger decisions take time to close your eyes and take a few deep breaths while you concentrate on the situation and ask your inner self for guidance. Remain open to any thoughts, sounds or images that come to you and use them to help you make choices.

You may make some mistakes but as you continue to access your own inner wisdom you will get better and better at trusting what comes to you and you will begin to trust your intuition to direct you on the right path.

Eventually you will find that accessing your inner voice comes as naturally as breathing. And trusting your intuition in all aspects of your life will be far more useful to you, and far more satisfying, than any advice that could be offered by others.

Friends, in every situation there is an opportunity for you to experience the deep satisfaction of trusting in yourself and your intuitive abilities. I hope that you are already using your intuition every day.

Take care of yourself

Dear Friends,

This week, I want to focus on the importance of taking care of yourself. As our days become busier and more hectic, it can be difficult for us to take a needed and deserved break. I am sure that even an aware person like yourself, has experienced moments when you would have liked to have more time to yourself.

The truth is that even for those of us who are aware and clear on the importance of self-care, it is easy to get caught up in daily routines, events, special projects, and the like, to the point that you forget to take time out for yourself. As a result, you may find yourself feeling tired and out of sorts. However, I have a few suggestions for giving yourself time, slowing down your mind, enjoying your surroundings, and replenishing your energy.

My first suggestion is to walk where you need to go. If you walk to work or to the corner store instead of driving there, you get a chance to slow down your mind, enjoy the surroundings, and get some great exercise to boot! If you can afford it, consider joining a gym and making the commitment to go several times a week. Getting exercise is an excellent way to bring your mind and body back into alignment and boost your energy levels.

Another way to create self-time is to join a group or club that meets on a regular basis. It could be a gardening club, a choir, a photography class or scrap-booking group, or even a meditation or yoga group. The idea behind these suggestions is to have time that is separate from your work and daily activities.

Finally, I have other suggestions for making extra time. Leave work on time or arrive at appointments early, equipped with a favorite book so that you take advantage of the wait time for pleasure reading. Keep a book or magazine handy in your bag or briefcase for when you are unexpectedly stuck waiting for someone or something.

I'm sure, that you can come up with many more ways to take care of yourself than I shared here if you put your mind to it. I hope that you will find my suggestions useful and that you will take some time for yourself this week to have fun, relax, and rejuvenate. You deserve it!