This morning I saw a man (read it is me) lose his temper with a store clerk. I was in an office to change my mobile connection from Post paid to Prepaid…it is Airtel. The customer he was helping lost his cool and began berating the poor guy. Fortunately, the store manager stepped in to soothe the situation for the man and stood up for his employee as well. I think we all have experienced moments when some small thing triggers a release of anger that has more to do with what's been building under the surface than the actual infraction.
Of course, anger is a natural and important part of our emotional life. It helps us to survive and to express our discontent. Interestingly, a flash of anger can actually release a flood of chemicals in the body, and not all of them unpleasant. This is why some people who are perpetually angry. People like that are often addicted to the hormone release of anger. Others may suppress their anger until some small incident puts them over the top, and they end up releasing it on someone else, much like the incident I witnessed this morning.
Neither holding our anger in, nor laying our anger on others is good for us. It raises our blood pressure, threatens our relationships, and can even make us sick. Fortunately, there are ways to express anger naturally that are healthy both physically and emotionally and that don't berate others. When you find yourself in situations that make you angry, step back for a moment. Take time to examine what is making you angry. When speaking about your anger to others, use non-blaming statements, and maybe even take a few moments to sort out your feelings before continuing your conversation.
Consider if your anger is attached to a specific issue or if it is the result of a buildup of something else. Then consider if your understanding of the situation is accurate or if there could be another possible explanation. For example, if you get cut off in traffic you might first think that the other driver did it intentionally, but another explanation could be that the driver just didn't see you. Another helpful solution is to talk it over with someone you trust. Sometimes another opinion will help diffuse your anger or at least help you understand your feelings better. Once you have a better understanding, you can act rather than react and calmly discuss the situation.
I use these tools all the time and find that they serve me well. Anger is a very natural form of human expression, but the trick is to be able to express it and to be heard.
I am able to tell you this because …..you will not believe that I get angry very easily for the past 10 days for no reasons and I am trying to cope up with that and finding a solution to resolve which I have shared with you all. So anger which is one letter short of Danger must be getting ridden of…..
Replace all your anger with complete happiness for a lasting relief and peace of mind.
